Dr. Craig L. Oliver
“The family is God’s greatest masterpiece.”
I think most of us will agree that the family is a critical component in the plans and purposes of God for humanity. In recently reading this article by Joel Hilliker entitled “An Important Ingredient in a Godly Family”, I immediately picked up on an aspect within the functioning of the family that we often overlook. I thought that it was important enough to share with you and pray that it provokes your understanding in the same manner in which it has sparked my own.
- Dr. Craig L. Oliver, Sr.
An Important Ingredient in a Godly Family
By: Joel Hilliker
What does it take to make a family happy and harmonious? Here’s a quality you may have overlooked—but it may be the most beautiful of all: Humility.
What do I mean? Think for a moment about the most loving family relationship that ever existed: that between God the Father and Jesus Christ. Some of the deepest insight we get into this love relationship comes in the statements Christ made about His Father while He was on this Earth as a man.
“My meat is to do the will of Him that sent me, and to finish His work,” He said (John 4:34). Jesus oriented His entire life around His Father’s will. He immersed His thinking in what His Father wanted to accomplish, and then in doing that.
Christ is a profoundly humble Being. He has a perfectly childlike attitude toward His Father. He has a deep understanding of His place in the Family government—and He loves that! And that makes Him totally unified with the Father.
No wonder the Father said, “This is my beloved Son in whom I am well pleased!” What father wouldn’t be deeply moved by a child with such an attitude? The more that any of us takes on that attitude, the more unified with God we will be.
Jesus Christ made several statements that demonstrated this attitude—and they are some of the most beautiful statements in the Bible.
I can’t do anything of myself, He said. I just watch what my Father does—and that’s what I do (John 5:19). This magnificent Being has done this with the Father throughout eternity: watch, study—and copy. As the Father makes decisions, handles problems and directs the angels, the Son is always watching and learning.
“Without deep roots, even the lightest winds of adversity can blow us over.”
- Gail Goodwin
In order for trees to grow, they must have deep roots in good soil. What we see happening above ground is largely indicative of roots that have procured nourishment from rich soil and sustained the tree in a way that promotes healthy expansion. The stability of the tree is also directly correlated with the depth of its roots. A tree with shallow roots is less likely to withstand the assault of a storm as opposed to one deeply rooted in the soil. We find this same principle at work in our lives. If we are to victoriously navigate the various seasons of our lives it requires that we be firmly rooted in Jesus Christ.
“Change your perception of things and you will change your reality.”
Victory or defeat is determined not so much by what happens to us as much as how we perceive what is happening to us. The way we process and perceive the context of our lives largely informs whether we navigate it from a place of victory or misery. Perception is key.
When considering the impact that a wrongful jail sentence could have on the life of a person, it would be easy to regard the injustice of the faulty verdict. One could rightly bemoan the systemic miscarriage of justice that would allow such a conviction and look through the limiting lenses of restricted freedom and limited interactions. The Apostle Paul, however, actively demonstrated throughout his life the power that comes when one refuses to be defined by what is happening to them but adjusts their perception to align with the purposes of God being made manifest.
“The two hardest things to handle in life are failure and success.”
We are often taught the importance of navigating places and moments of adversity from the perspective of effectively maximizing uncomfortable seasons and circumstances providentially allowed by our Heavenly Father. By comparison, lessons that teach us how to strategically walk through the successful seasons of our lives seem to be far fewer in number. I would argue that it is just as important to learn how to handle seasons of success as it is seasons of adversity. As a matter of fact, seasons of plenty and abundance can be dangerous for the person who is ill-advised of the responsibility that comes with it. Subtle traps of pride and relaxed discipline can slowly but certainly shift us to places of destruction and calamity when we are unaware of how to effectively tread the course of success.
“Extremes are easy. Strive for balance.”
- Colin Wright
As the quote above implies, it takes a specific grace to walk in moderation. It takes intentional discipline to live a life that is in balance. Balance is defined as “a state of equilibrium; equal distribution of weight or amount; mental steadiness or emotional stability; a habit of calm behavior and judgment”. Balance denotes order, structure, design and intentionality.
I am not sure how or when but somewhere in our culture we have normalized imbalance and extremism. We are overworked, overscheduled, not engaged at home, popping pills to go to sleep, popping pills to wake up, ministering to others while neglecting our homes, ministering to others while neglecting our own mental health, and the list goes on and on! This is not how we were designed to live. We were created by our Heavenly Father to live lives that are a balanced expression of His grace in the earth realm.
“But what appeared to be a defeat was actually the greatest victory of all.”
- Eugene Peterson
The audacious and tenacious faith we possess to declare victory in all circumstances and over all adversity is rooted in our connection to the victory of Jesus Christ. We are conquerors because Jesus Christ emerged triumphant over Death, Hell, and the Grave and by virtue of His victory righteousness and justification have been imputed to us. Moreover, our justification through faith in Him has given us access to His efficacious grace whereby we are empowered to stand victoriously!
The term conqueror refers to one who overcomes or wins in war utterly vanquishing forces that oppose them. In Romans 8:37, we are declared to be superior or greater than conquerors as it relates to those things that would attempt to disqualify or alienate us because of the superior force of God’s love which has won us an incontrovertible victory! The enemy and his opposing forces don’t stand a chance against us when we recognize the authority we walk in because of the gift of His grace!
“The power of 100 proud men cannot influence the world as much as one humble servant of God.”
- Tom Krause
In a world that promotes self-serving and egocentric behavior, humility is often a priceless commodity frequently overlooked. Attention grabbing activities aimed at bolstering already inflated egos seem to be commonplace on television and in the media. Unfortunately for many it seems that humility has taken a backseat to ambitious pride and arrogance.
One of the reasons I believe that humility is overlooked and obscured is because many people erroneously perceive meekness to be a weakness rather than a virtue. Humility does not mean that you have low self-esteem nor does it mean that that you must allow people to walk over you like a doormat. Quite simply, humility means that you recognize that all of your virtues, talents, resources, and intellect come from God and the confidence that you display is a result of your complete dependence upon Him for all things! The strength of the humble person rests in the fact that their power is rooted in their identity, relationship and reliance upon the Lord Jesus Christ.
“We become what we want to be by consistently being what we want to become each day.”
- Richard G. Scott
Many people erroneously construe that failure is the result of a lack of talent, lack of skill, or some other inherent virtue or grace. The reality is that failure is often the consequence of inconsistency. Consistency is probably one of the most underrated disciplines on our planet yet when you look at most successful people you will find that they possess the steadfast adherence to a set of principles, course of actions, or form that is definitive of consistency. Quite plainly, if we want to be successful we must learn to be consistent!
I came across a great article entitled “The Art of Being Consistent” by Carly Benson on the Miracles Are Brewing website that I decided to share. Benson practically discusses the importance of being consistent and how it can be implemented in our lives. I believe her simple but direct approach will lay out plainly for us how we can engage in the Art of Consistency and win!
- Dr. Craig L. Oliver
THE ART OF BEING CONSISTENT – Carly Benson
Consistency is the core of any commitment.
If you want to build something long lasting, you must build it with consistency at the foundation. This holds true in business and in relationships. It’s hard to keep trust in tact without remaining true to your promises and efforts on a reoccurring basis. If you are being inconsistent with someone or something, don’t be surprised if it fails. It is human nature to need stability and dependability to flourish or become something of permanence. If something isn’t working in your life, ask yourself if you have been giving it consistent attention, energy and time. In most cases, failure is simply a lack of consistency.
“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”
- Mahatma Gandhi
How can walking in forgiveness be a tactical strategy for walking in victory? When we consider the strategy of the overcomer, the concept of forgiveness does not immediately come to mind. I propose, however, that forgiveness is one of the most powerful weapons that the believer can have in their arsenal. Forgiveness brings a restorative freedom in the life of the child of God shedding light in areas that would otherwise be consumed by darkness.
“It’s worth taking a risk when motivated by faith in God.”
- Ruben Barreto
Faith is a fundamental virtue in the life of every believer. In order to victorious we must have faith that God is who He says He is, can do what He says He can do, and that He is efficacious in accomplishing everything that He has planned for our lives! Faith is critical to our status as WINNERS!
The Bible declares in Hebrews 11:6 “But without faith it is impossible to please Him: for he that cometh to God must believe that He is, and that He is a rewarder of them that diligently seek Him.” If we are going to be successful in this journey of life then by all means we must begin with faith. It takes faith to please God. It takes faith to access the grace that allows us to even receive the free gift of salvation. The Christian journey begins from a posture of faith!